It only occured to me recently, how ridiculously difficult it is to make friends as an adult. And I don't mean, those friends you make at work or see regularly through some other avenue... but rather those people who you meet once or only for a brief period of time, and then what? How do you become friends with those people? We aren't in school anymore, I can't offer them half of my recess before asking "do you wanna be friends?". When you meet someone fantastic, how on earth do you become friends without being a weirdo?
And how do you go about maintaining this new found friendship? I can easily go for months without seeing my close friends. We've got years and years of history keeping our friendship going, so when we do finally catch up after a few months, we simply start where we left off and fill each other in on all the inbetween. New friends are a bit different (a lot different actually). You can't exactly make a new friend and then not see them for three months - may as well have never met them. I feel you have to invest a decent amount of time and effort into a new friendship right at the beginning.... and how do you suppose this happens without coming across as a stalker?
Its been 10 years since I left high school, and my circle of friends has changed a fair bit.... due to time passing by and priorities changing, due to moving away from where I made all these friends in the first place, and due to our lives just moving along a different path. It's not a bad thing I guess, however it does make me feel a little isolated and lonely at times. It would be nice to have a handful of people close by that I click with, that I can catch up with for a drink after work, or a bite to eat on the weekends. Maybe even invite them over for a game of singstar.
